Love And Unhappiness

Question was asked

Him: How hard is it personally for you to get over the one you gave your heart to?

Me: Depends on how much of myself I really gave to that person. You don't just give your heart in most cases...

See think about it...

How long did it take for you to give that person whatever you gave them of you?

Now if you gave your heart along with your soul you are fighting a tough battle back normalcy because these are emotional and spiritual ties that bond you and another together for the duration of your relationship.

Hold up I might be speaking chinese to some right now so lemme break it down for the slow or lost.

There are 4 things we give of ourselves to another person during relationships.

In these 4 ways we form bonds with our partner.

To give one of the four to anyone that walks this earth means that you are now bonded in this way until the tie has been broken.

To break that tie will mean to break what bonds you together from the source of it all.

Here goes the 4...(in my view)

Mind/Mental: Some of us connect mentally before anything. Although this is normally the last bond to give fully its also the easiest bond to break and regain for self because nothing is stronger than the mind. The act of reasoning will reason above any emotional, spiritual or physical bond because if you really want to do something ...its nothing to it once your minds to it.


Remember that


Body/Physical: This physical bond is normally given early in relationships.

THE NOOKIES!
*ahem*

Normally its ruled by the heart and all the emotions that go with it BUT with better judgement the body will ignore emotional pull and simply hold strong with the mind. Most fling type relationships use and abuse this bond. Still mind over matter always wins. You get tired and eventually you move on.
Again..this reinforces the above statement of the mind.

Heart/Emotional: They say love conquers all. False. A complete love with all four essential parts holding together strong will conquer all. Needless to say the heart is the emotional bond that many of us suffer from. This bond is not as easy to break but when broken its the most liberating feeling on earth or...can cause you to fold into a little ball. Ice cream and vent session and some new underwear can help get you through this one...oh and maybe calling that person out they name a few times.

Soul/Spiritual:
*sigh*

Its greater than just loving someone.
Its being so in love with someone your soul becomes intune with each other.
This bond..comes rare and also the is strongest and most painful bond to break.
A spiritual bond cannot be denied it can only be ignored. And even then sometimes the calling to from another's soul can be heard in the back of your mind.
And you slowly die...inside.

It rules out every other bond there is.
Its the alpha and omega of relationships.
This is an unbreakable bond.

However...if mind, body and heart cannot take the strain of this bond then you are able to pull away and salvage whatever of you is left...but understand that this bond..will never die and you will never be the same.

Now back to his question...

How long will it take?

Well...now considering everything I said...

How much did you give?

...

New Year.

Hi

I'm Candice.

You might know me a bit from last years up and down rollercoaster ride of finding myself between trying to love someone and holding onto much of my past.

Yeah you know me pretty darn well then from last year.

Wasn't that pretty fun to watch?

You know what's going to be cooler?

This years Candice.

Let me update you a bit.


Moved back to Flatbush.
Got new job.
Got another kitty! (His name is Osiris and he's a sexy cat)
Fell back in lust or love or whatever you wanna call it with Maurice (His first name hidden because of the nosey)
And now slowly falling out of that due to emotional strain and whatnots.
Was hospitalized and found out that I had cyst on my ovaries (explaining why I was sick all the time)
And this was all in the first month of 09


Yeah this year finna be a blast.

Join me!